Self Acceptance & Overcome It!

23:26 rafi 4 Comments

"Accept yourself unconditonally. You don't need other people to approve you, accept and love yourself just the way it is" - Unknown

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As a human, we are imperfect. It might be came from our body, or come from our brains, or even come from our environment. I was lucky enough to be born from middle-upper class family, that's already honored by others due to my father's successful business story -at least- on my hometown. Many believe I am lucky enough to be born on the "perfect" family, that's not so having any financial issues at all.

There might be right and wrong. But I must admit, what they were seeing definitely things in the surface. They didn't know that my mother was sick for very long time, cancer, until God's taking her to His lap. They didn't know that my father raised us by himself, have tried to have "second marriage" but only last in a week since his second wife had same sickness called cancer. And he didn't want to take a chance to have the same feeling that he was broken apart after losing my mom.

They didn't know that my father had 2 children that's really hard to maintain & manage, and somehow had no interest to continue live and didn't know what they want to be.

The list keep going on, and would never finish till I stop typing by myself, right? That's what happened when you focus on your weaknesses.

Self awareness definitely a thing that you should have. You should know what your strength and your weaknesses. You should know what your passion, goals, and what do you want to be, at least in the short term, yet you need to manage it on the long term. However ...... What's next? Let say you have broken down the list of your weakness. That you're not smart enough, that you're not discipline enough, that you're not independent enough. This is where the next stage should come. Acceptance.

You need to accept your current conditions. I always do this stuff till now. "Acceptance and Overcome". That's what I called as the next stage of self-awareness.

"Based on IQ and Aptitude test on ITB. I found that my IQ was 120 -which is above average- but based on the behaviorial test, they told me I am not independent enough. I am not brave enough to speak up my mind. I am overthinking that whenever I asked the lecturer about something, my friends going to judge me as "nerd" or something. Or someone that's only taking lecturer's attention"

This was by far, what I lacked. I am overthinking, and not confident enough. I am now aware with that.

So?

"So?" is always be the follow up question from me. After being aware with something, I used to ask myself what's next. What kind of things I can do about it, to overcome my weaknesses. I am breaking down the possibilities, prioritize, and just do it already.

Let's take an example from my "not-so confident & independent stuff". I broke down, to overcome my confident and be more independent, I need to be accepted on my former dormitory, called Asrama Bumi Ganesha. Why? In here, I would learn about leadership & of course time management. We were given so many tasks such as doing socialization to the seniors -this is where the confident came from-, and we should create a big event with at least Bandung city in scale. Leadership, at some case, definitely would help me to be more independent in life, coz if you want to lead people, you need to be able lead yourself first. This is the most logical ways I thought.

"It seems impossible until it's done" - Nelson Mandella

I did it. I push myself to the limit, to manage all of the task, without forgetting my academic task as well, and maintain to be accapted as a member.  It's pretty exhausting of course. On 1-3 months, we had target to socialize with all of the dormitory's member, at the same time, we had so many academic tasks to do, as well as mid-term and final examination for each semester.

Source: Paradox of Self Acceptance

Another example of course, when I was aware that my public speaking is so suck. Just like the mediocry persons would be, I would have stage fever whenever I should speak my mind in front of the others. I would be shaken,  my voice going to sound tremble, and I would be heard "mumbling" because I can't say the word clearly. I do have a lot of thing to say, but it's just couldn't be taken out from my mouth.

"Ok Rafi, glad you have been aware. So?"

Reharse! Rehearse and Rehearse! This is the only solution for public speaking. It's definitely like piloting the plane. At first, you might be nervous as fuck. But let them be. Just do it already, feel the sensation. And rehearse!

At first, I was literally mumbling, shaken, and somehow "black out". But at the second time, the voice seems to be clearer, even though I was still shaken, but it's definitely lesser from the first one. I keep rehearse and rehearse. It takes at least 2 hours to make it easier, and Alhamdulillah I could manage the presentation.

Yes, that's the presentation for "Outstanding students" competition. At least my dean -somehow- believed and saw me take it more seriously. And Alhamdulillah, the first time our major could represent the Faculty of Earth Science and Technology.

This was - of course - the first big stage I have, where I should present in front of ITB student back then. I realized I haven't been good enough. I swear to you, my rivals definitely so freaking good, that they can speak english so fluently, and it feels that "ITB" stage obviously not so big for them already. Haha.


When you aware, accept, and overcome. In the process, you'll be more aware about something much bigger. You will not be satisfied enough with your progress, that what you're doing is learning and learning. You desperately want to be a better person from time to time, and somehow there's no "enough" word in your mind. And ..... you're enjoy with the learning process you have.

If you have a rough and really bad past. Just accept it. Forgive yourself and move on. Don't let past justified you in the present and in the future.

If you have something in your mind, just express it ! Don't let your assumption define the present, push your back, and discouraged you to convey your feeling and ideas.

If you have any doubt to yourself i.e. you're not clever enough, that you're dishonest, that you have bad habbit and stuff. Always asked your closest one, and seek any confirmation whether it's true or not. Tbh, mostly you can answer it by yourself, and if you're aware this is true, you need to trust yourself that you're not going to be like that anymore. It's within in your past, and let them be, and keep changing to be an ideal person for yourself, and always value yourself more. 

Conclusion

Self awareness is always be the first step. Next, you need to accept that you're just the way you are. If someone said that you're stupid, don't stop with being aware with it. You need to accept it, and overcome it. Don't ever let their judgement to be true. You always have chances to prove it wrong by thinking and doing how to overcome this from you. You need to know that you're definitely bigger from any judgment or justification they or you made for yourself. You are smarter enough. You are beautiful enough. You are stronger enough. And the list keep going on !

Being Learner is My Way of Ninja!

01:01 rafi 4 Comments

Traveler (Source: savageuniversal.com)

Trivia

Have you ever had any thought, that you're so done with learning stuff, that you already pursue this formal education for 16 years or so, and didn't want to learn anything coz you're thinking you're wasting your time? Same! I have.

I was thinking, after graduated, I'll take a well-paid job, and just continue my life as it is, coz I didn't want to have this 'stressing' life, with tight deadline, and have potential to fail and stuff.

Reality

Fortunately, this won't give me any strong motivation, and just die in coz I told myself to realize learning is never only about my education. Of course I was learning about Meteorology, Statistic, Hydro-met, climate change, and stuff, but things I learn were never end-up with these stuff. At least that's what motivate me to be Generalist, to explore not-only the hardskill but also softskills, something that I believe would help me go through this world easier.

Being a constantly learner is my way of ninja (a.k.a Life). The main strategy you should have to be a learner is simply, change your mindset! You need to have a mindset, that you can learn anything, anytume, and anywhere. It doesn't matter how high your IQ is, or how long you will need to learn it. Changing your mindset that everything can be learned is a must for being a learner. Be consistent and persistent, or in a muslim way you may say "Istiqamah".

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"So, tell me what you have learned so far, raf!"

Oke, the positive ways of having this mindset actually helped my life so far. Even helped my brother as well. Tbh, besides learning about Meteorology, I have learned many softskills such as leadership, time management, building habits, and stuff. I also learned Marketing, Finance, Human Resource, Business Strategy, and lately, I was learning about Micro and Macroeconomy to help my brother study. With this mindset, I manage to motivate -at least- myself, that by learning Macroeconomy, It'll help my career now and then.

Apparently, it is.

By the time I am curious about what "Economic" student actually learned, and how could this impact to the society as a whole, I got the big picture how could government providing the policy to maintain the foreigner currency rate, to help and attract importer and exporter as well. I got the idea why our government keep importing something, or when should we export our products to another country and stuff.

I also got the idea how interest rate can affect the loan demand/ supply curve, by thinking about the logic and possibilities how it could impact a country directly.

Since I am currently working on Financial Industries, I just got the idea tho! At least it might be used in the future when should we, as company, should decrease the Interest rate to increase the demand while the supply is on a tight competitive market. At least, besides constantly improving the product as well as the process and the customer experience, this interest rate as a part of "Pricing Strategy" can be used to attract more customers in the future, right?

This is something you might feel when you learn something new every day!

Knowledge is really delicious stuff to eat and fulfill your body and mind, and consistently can improve and develop you as a human!

Curious (Source: http://www.curiouswriter.com)

Do not ever stop being Curious! Curiousity might kill a cat as well as eating to much sugar/ calories. Anything might kill you but as long as you do it in the right way, it'll save yours! Curiousity can make you stay motivate so that you can "try" and "find-out" something every day. Before judging yourself/ others as "Corporate slave" and stuff, why don't you think another way, that you do it for yourself, to fill you and your curiousity, and improve/ develop you as a human!

Being generalist doesn't mean you didn't hone something in particular, and can't do better with the others. Big NO! Make sure, anything that you have learned can support you, not only in your career but also when taking some big decision to your life! Don't think inside the box but outside the box instead, always try connecting the dots and you'll learn something even faster. At least it would help you how to remember something, and of course would help with understanding something deeply. Because actually, you already learn something "similar" before, and it doesn't make it so different conceptually.

I have one example for method above. Whenever during the college, I need to study exam for Physical Meteorology. I was curious enough to understand more about "Thermodynamic system on Cloud" which is about adiabatic heating. Since it's pretty much a complex system for cloud, I tried to understand in easier way. The process itself happened on Cloud formation especially in forming cumulonimbus clouds. What I understand, adiabatic process that happened in cloud, would make the pressure much lower compare to its surrounding. Fortunately because the differences of this pressure, some process happened to "normalize" the event. Wind will be blown from High to Low, and make the adiabatic even worse and support the development of Cumulonimbus itself. Cumulonimbus will make some storm, and of course can affect the human/ environment directly. I realize, the concept of Adiabatic process is pretty much similar with the capitalism system. While heating the system, the surrounding will pretty much take action "to clear" something up, but end-up worsening the system, and make something messier. We might see the Clouds (can be seen as a Country) developing well and significantly, but no, there's a time when a storm coming, and the cloud would be small again, and ...... the process repeated again.

Lol, it's much simpler to explain things in here. But somehow I manage to connecting the dots with something, so that I can learn it faster.

And you know what, I ever discussed about this to my group, some can't take what I mean because perhaps they haven't understand with another concept that I was trying to explain tho.

Connect (Source: scillagrace.com)

Lesson learned: The more you learn, the faster you will learn something new, as long as you can connecting the dots for this! In this world, you may find the "Concept" pretty much similar and with different case. And this is why, despite being Meteorologist, I choose to be Business Analyst & would love to continue my career as Data Scientist as well. Because I believe, from what I learned, conceptually so much analysis similar with what I learned here, and by connecting the same pattern, I could solve the business problem and find-out answer for business question even faster. yuhuu, not so different Wkwk

Conclusion

The more you learn, the more you earn

I got this quote from mas Iman Usman, as CPO of Ruangguru, that's consider himself as Generalist - which is cool-. Some tips for you besides changing your mindset, you may need to connecting the dots anything you've learned before, to learn something new faster. If you have already used to with it, I believe your brain could take from your database memory even faster! Which will make you learn faster and remember about it longer (even perhaps long last!). Similar with adiabatic process isn't it? Fortunately, what makes it different, your knowledge won't be decreased but the process can be repeated more and more without make your past knowledge lesser/ lost!

Definitely this process is better than the capitalism, right?! My mind-blown away while writing this, tho! Somehow God have created us perfectly, and design us to be a learner forever (even till we grow old !). If only I knew this since Elementary, I'll be okey to join and contribute with this community! Hoho

#CountMeIn!

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Tentang Menemukan Cara Belajar - Sebuah Kontemplasi

23:21 rafi 4 Comments

"Pain is temporary, GPA is forever. It's now or next year. Ganbatte Raf!" - Me, speaking to myself during exam 

Halo semua,

Pagi ini gue akan share tentang bagaimana gue menemukan cara belajar yang tepat semasa kuliah gue.

Buat kalian yang udah baca notes gue sebelumnya, lo mesti tau kalo di semester 1 gue masih pake cara belajar lama sembari melakukan observasi lebih lanjut.

Ternyata oh ternyata, kuliah di itb ga semudah yang dibayangkan lol. Belajar H-1 never works unless you were genius arshole wkwk. Tidak. Semua materi yang diberikan emang membutuhkan waktu 1 semester untuk dipahami secara keseluruhan. Jadi, masa-masa TPB yang gue lewati dengan belajar hanya beberapa hari sebelum ujian dengan materi seadanya dan tanpa latihan soal (sok-sokan belajar secara konseptual dan menghafal rumus sih gue), end-up with getting only B untuk Matematika, Fisika, dan Kimia.

Jangan ditanya nilai UTS gue ya, Kalkulus gue cuma dapat 24/42 (50an lebih dikit), Kimia gue dapat 40an, dan FISIKA cuman dapat 38 dari 100 :(

Njir. Sedih banget.

Untuk orang-orang yang selalu dapat 5 besar di sekolah pasti bakal shock berat. Dan ini ga cuman berlaku di gue, banyak yang lebih dibawah gue nilainya. Kalo aja nilai MAFIKI ini jelek sedari TPB ya, itu bakal kontribusi ke IP cukup signifikan karena mereka take up to 11/18 sks lol.

So, be aware ya! Cara belajar itu penting! Lupakan cara belajar lo yang waktu SMA dulu yang bahkan H-1 bisa lo kejar. Tenang, gue juga selalu gini kok, bahkan nilai gue ga pernah dibawah 85 untuk pelajaran ekstrim kayak MAFIKI dan Biologi.


Ya. Tapi kalo udah kuliah harus beda yah dan emang beda :")

Kuncinya cukup simple sebenarnya. Dalam perjalanannya, gue mencoba hal baru di semester 2. Jika di semester 1 gue kebanyakan belajar bareng, which is cukup ga efektif. Karena yang gue rasakan, ketika lo belajar bareng, masing masing lo ada di titik yang berbeda. Kalo mau bareng, biasanya lo harus menyamakan persepsi dan cara berfikir. Ini bisa takes time banget kalo gue hitung hitung. Alhasil, I come up with studying alone!

Buku buku referensi dari latihan soal hingga buku paket semua gue pelajarin. Gue menemukan pola ala bisa karena biasa. Semakin gue mempelajari solusi penyelesaian soal, semakin mengerti gue konseptual dari suatu materi. As simple as that. Adapun ketika gue menemukan masalah baru dan sangat sulit bahkan setelah gue mencoba memahaminya (serta kunci jawabannya), gue akan minta temen-temen yang jauh lebih pintar dan cerdas dari gue buat ngejelasin (ini sih di ITB banyak banget wkwk). Thanks to anak-anak OSN yang otaknya udah encer banget, gue minta mereka ajarin cara penyelesaian step by step.

And you know what, somehow mereka yaudah gituloh, baca soal, terus dijabarin satu-satu step by step, plus rumus dan konsepnya gimana. Gue salut sama alumni-alumni OSN ini ..... You guys so mantap!

Nah, yang paling penting lagi. Kalo misalnya lo udah dijelasin juga ga ngerti-ngerti. Yaudah gitu, move on! Jangan terlalu berkutat sama 1 soal yang bahkan kemungkinan kecil keluar wkwk. Disini lo ga ngejar dapat nilai 100 loh! Lo ngejar batas bawah suatu nilai. Let say kalo fisika biar dapat A tuh nilai totalnya harus 68. Artinya lo udah bisa targetin hal-hal yang diperlukan.

Contoh, setiap ada tugas lo kerjakan. Kalo proporsinya 20% ini berarti lo udah dapat angka 20, tinggal cari 48 lagi buat dapat A. Syukur syukur dosen lo memperhitungkan kehadiran (di itb sih gini). Kalo hadir 100% lo udah dapat 10 lagi. Sisa 38 ini yang lo bagi bagi sama nilai UTS dan UAS. Asumsikan 70% dari keduanya, lo cuman butuh nilai 55 dimasing masing ujian!

Yah itu mah kalo bener 3 dari 5 soal mah lo langsung auto A. Jadi ..... Inget. Lo gabutuh nilai 100 disini. Yang lo butuhkan adalah strategi. Jangan panik harus menguasai 100% materi wkwk. Mulai kerjakan soal dari yang termudah. Biasanya lo bisa lompat-lompat nomor kok, asalkan jelas aja jawaban itu milik nomor berapa dan part mana.

Sip.

Masih terkait cara belajar nih. Jadi akhirnya, waktu masuk jurusan, semua tuh kayak ke refresh gitu kan, pengetahuan dasar udah dianggap sama rata, namun ilmu metenya masih cetek semua. Nah disini gue akhirnya memutuskan untuk belajar sebaik mungkin demi mendongkrak IPK lebih tinggi lagi. Kenapa? Wkwk, dulu kepikiran kalo IPK > 3.5 mau coba pindah jurusan. Eh tahu-tahu malah makin suka wkwk. Gue juga akhirnya memutuskan untuk belajar bareng temen-temen gue, sebagai teman diskusi dan cara gue untuk mengulang dan memahami pelajaran. Karena dengan kita mengajari orang, sebenarnya kita  ga buang-buang waktu, kita malah harus bersyukur karena ilmu pengajaran teraplikasikan, plus latihan soal semakin gila lagi.

Gue dan temen-temen biasanya belajar buku paket bareng-bareng, ngerjain soal bareng-bareng, dan diskusi bareng-bareng. Kadang ada yang ga gue sadari, you-know-lah gue kan ga detail banget, ternyata ditemukan temen-temen gue, akhirnya kita bisa ngertinya juga bareng-bareng. Dan ..... lulus pelajarannya juga bareng-bareng, gengs!

To sum it up

Intermezzo

Emang sih jangan orientasi nilai doang, tapi dimana-dimana kan IP/IPK ini jadi semacam pintu gerbang lo lolos administrasi. At least kalo lo mau coba MT juga IP/IPK pasti jadi pintu gerbang lo diterima di awal. Setelah itu sisanya bakal fix terkait pola pikir lo, semangat lo mau belajar dan mencoba hal-hal baru, serta pengalaman/ jam terbang lo selama mahasiswa. Udah pernah ngapain aja, ikut lomba apa aja, ikut kegiatan apa aja, pernah jadi delegasi kemana, dsb!

Sip.

Semoga buat kalian para mahasiswa baru, bisa mengikuti perkuliahan dengan baik dan benar yah :)) Jangan pernah ngerasa salah jurusan, jalanin aja dulu, ntar kalo semuanya oke, pasti bakal ada satu momen yang bakal bisa bikin lo klik sama jurusan yang lo pilih.

Lagian ..... suruh siapa dulu main asal-asal pilih jurusan? Hahaha

PS. If you have followed my article, you would know that I have no idea what I am going to do with Meteorology in the first place. And I continue it anyway, even though I didn't work as Meteorologist, at least I am being part of Data Scientist know. Pola pikir yang gue dapat selama masa perkuliahan, benar-benar kepake buat ngasih solusi dan ngejawab pertanyaan bisnis baik itu untuk keperluan operasional, marketing, product, serta keuangan.

Don't think small. Think Bigger. Gaes!!!!

Last but not least ..... Don't forget


Coz we're forever students and constantly learning new things every single days. Don't let your thought about "Already smart" and stuff bother you, coz knowledge is infinite & can be learned*

* for those who seek the truth

Catatan untuk Mahasiswa Baru

00:24 rafi 5 Comments

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Halo!

Pertama-tama, gue mau mengucapkan selamat nih untuk anak-anak SMA yang udah diterima di perguruan tinggi pilihannya masing-masing. Percayalah, kalian adalah segelintir orang yang beruntung loh bisa mengenyam pendidikan tinggi.

Buat yang belum dan masih berjuang, tenang saja, kalau memang tujuan kalian Universitas/Institut tersebut karena emang dari segi kualitas serta biaya kuliah yang murah, jangan sungkan untuk mencoba tahun depan! Boleh-boleh aja kok ga ambil kuliah dalam 1 tahun ke depan, asalkan waktu luang ini dipakai benar-benar dalam memperjuangkan mimpi kalian.

Here's the thing, kalian bisa aja coba buat cari kerja dulu, sembari mengumpulkan uang untuk kuliah selanjutnya, beserta bagi prioritas waktu untuk belajar. Gue punya beberapa kenalan yang emang baru kuliah tahun depan/ 2 tahun setelah tamat SMA loh. Beberapa simply ada yang begitu karena tidak mungkin kuliah di perguruan tinggi swasta. Ada juga emang sengaja buat kumpulin duit dan pengalaman dulu. Bahkan ga sedikit anak-anak orang berada yang emang ortunya minta anaknya magang dulu selama 1 tahun baru ambil kuliah. Contoh paling dekat, anaknya Obama, she took 1 year break  buat memantapkan hati ambil jurusan apa dan fokus pada penemuan passion hidupnya :))

Sip.

Adapun berikutnya, gue mau kasih pesan buat anak-anak Mahasiswa Baru (Maba), yang dalam waktu dekat akan menghadapi semester 1. Karena tahun pertama ini menurut gue salah satu tahun penting sih, apalagi untuk yang masih baru mulai beradaptasi di lingkungan baru, dan menjadi perantau di tanah orang hoho.

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1. Take it easy and do not rush

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2. Manage Ekspektasi

BP XXXIII KAM BUMI GANESA ITB

3. Ber-organisasilah

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4. Stay Focus

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5. Fix your attitude

Surat untuk Netizen, Spread Love not Hate - Sebuah Kontemplasi

21:01 rafi 2 Comments

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Indonesia sedang tidak baik-baik saja.

At least, itu yang sedang aku rasakan.

Disclaimer, tulisan ini untuk mengekspresikan apa yang sedang aku rasakan sebagai Silent Majority. Tbh, I feel ashamed karena gabisa belain adik-adik ini setiap ada yang menghujat mereka. Apalagi sebagai anak yang pernah dibully dan survive -ingat, beberapa tidak selamat dan memutuskan untuk bunuh diri loh- untuk masalah bullying ini. Semoga dengan tulisan ini, paling tidak akan ada yang mulai menarik kata-katanya, serta merunungkan segala perbuatannya.

Baiklah.

Belakangan, kalian pasti tidak asing dengan nama-nama ini: Nurrani, pemilik akun @nurrani_r, yang menganggap dirinya istri "Sah" Iqbal. Ataupun Bowo, pemilik akun @bowo_alpenlibe yang merupakan artis Tiktok, salah satu aplikasi yang dianggap orang-orang aplikasi "Bodoh". Padahal mereka tidak sadar, bagaimana instagram juga dinobatkan sebagai aplikasi paling membawa dampak buruk untuk saat ini.

Ok.

Gue ga akan fokus ke aplikasi-aplikasi ini. Karena sejatinya, mereka hanyalah tools untuk meng-ekspresikan diri. Dan otomatis, jika kelewatan, semua aplikasi bisa menghasilkan tindakan yang dianggap "Bodoh" kan (?).

Sip.

Lantas, apa yang terjadi saat ini?

Gue akan terus terang, yang terjadi adalah Major Cyber-bullying. Iya, model bullying oleh netizen, dan dilakukan pula oleh banyak orang! Gue mungkin risih, ingin banget ngomenin satu-satu tentang jangan begitu mengomentari hidup orang. Tapi apalah daya, benar-benar hampir semua orang men-judge dan menghina anak-anak remaja ini. Iya, anak-anak yang hitungannya masih SMP, 13 tahun, masih mencari jati diri, masih mencari-cari apa yang mereka suka.

Netizen seakan berojol langsung menjadi dewasa, tanpa pernah mengingat fase-fase yang pernah lewati. Sejatinya akan mirip, siapa yang ga sempet melewati fase "Alay", untuk sekedar mengikuti trend, dan mengekspresikan diri yang mereka anggap "keren" (?).


Coba deh kalian baca-baca komentar di postingan Nurrani. Gue bukan ga punya kerjaan sih, di tulisan ini, gue mencoba memposisikan diri gue sebagai Nurrani. Yang awalnya bahagia karena apa yang dia lakukan viral, namun ketika melihat komentarnya, sedih banget!



Buat mba-mba/ netizen yang menyempatkan berkomentar buruk. Coba renungkan sejenak ya. Sebagai manusia seutuhnya, harusnya kalian berfikir, "kalo gue mau dihormati, gue harus menghormati. Kalo gue gamau diperlakukan A, maka gue ga akan melakukan A ke orang". Simple kan? Iya simple.

Always put yourself in someone shoes. Coba posisikan diri sebelum bertindak. Apakah kalian mau diperlakukan seperti ini? Apakah kalian mau dihina-hina? Apakah kalian mau dibilang Bodoh? For me, big no! Gue pernah nangis loh waktu guru gue bilang gue bodoh. Semenjak itu, gue ga akan pernah ngomong orang bodoh/ goblok/ apapun yang dapat menyakiti orang lain. Karena gue tau gimana rasa sakit itu. Call me baper, call me overthinking, you guys just have no idea by being bullied, right? Semoga kalian tidak merasakan :) Tapi yah jangan memberikan hal itu ke orang juga kan?

Baik.

Komentar-komentar yang gue screenshot ini, tidak akan naik keatas jika tidak banyak yang like. Secara otomatis, banyak yang "Setuju" komentar-komentar jahat seperti ini. Apa yang kalian cari? Berharap ani berubah? Berharap ani menjadi orang lain? Berharap ani menjadi seperti kalian? Mengomentari/ menanggapi satu-satu? Ingat loh, dia tidak mengharapkan jadi viral! Dia viral karena akun-akun yang share, belum lagi Iqbal sendiri sempat mengomentari akun dia. For me, it really does funny! Tanpa ada yang tersakiti.

Sampailah sekarang, malah makin banyak yang bully. Doi masih SMA/ SMP (?) Intinya doi masih dalam masa pubertas. Biarlah dia berkarya. Biarlah dia menentukan jalan mana yang dia ambil. Mungkin di awal dia hanya ingin menghibur orang-orangnya (?) Atau mungkin ia ingin di-notice oleh Iqbal, karena dia fans berat (?) We don't know anything about her. So, don't judge.

Sekalipun Ani baca tulisan gue, inget yah dek. Apa yang dikatakan orang-orang, apakah lu tolol/ bego/ bodoh, ga berarti itu mendefinisikan lo! Tetap berkarya dan tetap pada jalan yang benar. Just be yourself, be humble, niatkan ke yang baik-baik. Prove them wrong. Buktikan mereka salah, kalau lo ga bodoh, kalau lo kreatif, kalo lo punya niat baik untuk menghibur orang, dan ga menyakiti siapapun. Jalan lo masih panjang banget, lo masih melewati masa sekolah, gue saranin lanjut kuliah sesuai passion lo, buat men-support apa yang lo cita-citakan! Don't let your haters define you!

Sip.

Gue pribadi juga truly support apa yang dikatakan mba @rahmasyifaa yang menurut gue baik banget telah mengekspresikan apa yang gue rasakan juga. Gue beneran setuju! Netizen ini terlalu kelewatan, anak-anak yang masih pubertas, yang masih perlu dibimbing, malah dihujat habis-habisan loh! Beberapa ada yang jahat banget malah ngurusin rezeki masing-masing. Berlagak "Tuhan" yang secara gamblang telah mengatur rezeki orang ya, para netizen?! Huft!

Gue yakin, banyak yang seperti mba rahma, banyak yang mencoba membela, namun suaranya tidak terlalu didengar. Gapapa gaes, kita harus meyakini dan memperjuangkan hal-hal yang benar! Karena sesungguhnya itu yang menjadikan kita "Manusia" seutuhnya.

Sip.

Satu lagi, tulisan ini, berlaku juga untuk adik-adik lain yang ngerasa punya Haters, just express yourself gaes, jalan kalian masih panjang, dalam prosesnya kalian bakal nemu mana yang "Boleh", mana yang "tidak boleh", atau mana yang "sebaiknya tidak" untuk dilakukan. As long as you guys stay humble and had positive intention, gue akan sepenuhnya support! Hoho. Ini hidup kalian, kalian yang ngatur, tidak perlu diambil pusing loh apa perkataan netizen ini. It's yours, not theirs!

Okey.

Sebelum gue juga ikut ter-cap sebagai netizen nyinyir, karena sesungguhnya hamba jugalah seorang netizen yang menyampaikan opini. Semoga tulisan ini bisa menginspirasi banyak netizen juga, yang sebelumnya banyak menyebarkan kebencian. Inget gaes. #SpreadLove #NotHate karena semua akan lebih indah, dunia akan lebih bahagia, ketika semua orang menyebarkan Cinta dan Kasih sayang loh! Give the positive vibes to the societies! Hargai karya orang lain. Jika dirasa apa yang mau kalian ungkapkan tidak baik. Lebih baik diam! Karena sesungguhnya .....

"Barang siapa yang beriman kepada Allah dan hari akhir, berkata baiklah atau diam" - HR. Muslim

Merci! Gracias! Thanks ! Danke ! Terima Kasih ! Bedankt ! Syukron!

Jika suka dengan tulisan ini, mohon bantu kami untuk share tulisan ini. Mari kita buat dunia menjadi lebih baik! - Rafi