Hola gaes!
As you knew, it's been a week or more I haven't posted anything at my blog, right? Well, currently I'm writing on Quora.com, to answer anything I could based on my experiences, also ..... it's quite interesting to see answers from many questions in here. This opened my mind that every person has its own obstacle, right? They have their own stories, which sometimes it's sad, or happy, or confusing, or inspiring, anything. Some have ever been in hard situation, while things get better whenever they evaluate themselves to be a better person.
So gaes, I suggest you guys to check it here: https://www.quora.com/answer. And to see my profile, kindly just check it here: https://www.quora.com/profile/Muhammad-Rafi-AlHariri-Nasution. I've been answering several questions about Life, Meteorology, etc.
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Calm down, fans! I would keep updating this blog but not so often la
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This is example of my answer, that's already viewed 1.8K times
Do not judge me as revenge seeker ya, but I guess calling a person stupid is extremely rude and can't be tolerated, more over if you're a fucking teacher :") So ..... Bye! Boom, could prove it to you, sist!
Ok .... Bye!
Hello!
So tonight I would share my thought about Judging someone.
Well, as a human, Judging someone has been part of our life. Every time we saw someone did something, whether it makes us Happy or not, we tend to judge him by what they have done. The worst thing is, sometimes we judge people just because their appearance. And I have felt how it feels, even I have judged someone also loh!
What would be my point is ..... Let's start minimizing this kind of things. Just stop judging someone already. Whatever it is, it'll never be that simple. It'll never be as simple as we thought.
Let me give you some example. Whenever someone plain stupid, I mean, somehow it's hard for them to understand things or accepting what have been thought in class. Well, it's not always they're not trying harder, or not learning at all, because as you know, everyone has their own IQ, which is relating with someone's logic. Perhaps, he/she's not really into with mathematical term, but extraordinary with the art.
Whenever you judge someone, if it's bad, you'll have less respect with them, right? And somehow, it could affect your relationship with them. So, instead of judging them that they're not working enough, why don't we try to help them instead? Be a teacher, both of you would have the advantages. She/he could understand what they confused, and you, could learn your communication skills, even learning the matter twice, which would assure you remember that in the future. Win win solution, right?
Next. Since judging someone could affect your respect level toward each other, somehow it could affect you about the value of a person. Let say, because of this person "Gay", you won't believe anything that come from his/her mouth. That's it, it's just done for you. Although, the matters had nothing to do with sexual orientation or gender. What we don't know and might miss, some valuable ideas in the future, which is probably brilliant if we could follow this up.
Next. Have you ever judged someone that you didn't know? Just heard the rumors, or even seeing based on their appearance? I have. And it sucks! I remembered one video that could change your perspective about a "Gift". This commercial were about the passenger, that bought some Donuts. Sitting in waiting room. While he's sitting, he saw this man, that look like homeless person. This person took some Donuts from the plastic, that this man were thinking it's his! And then, they keep eating, till the end, after the announcement, this "homeless" look alike man ready to go, and took last donuts. Instead of taking last donuts, this man slice it half, and give it to the man.
Ok
And then, he get called from the announcement about his flight, take his Jacket, and his donuts right over there! Yups, this man was literally eating that man's donuts, and the "homeless" man taught him a lesson, about gift.
I obviously moved with that, and once again, judging someone isn't really a good thing in the first place.
The list keep going down. Judging someone based on their race, religion belief, etc, won't make you "more" human instead of him, or would lift your value higher than him. This concept could be danger, and would separate us in the future. And believe it's happening not only in Indonesia, but also in every country. Regionally, Nationally, or even Internationally. If only someone stop judging each other that "I am right instead of them" etc, I believe this world would be a better place to live in. Period.
For a moment, I was thinking about my article with "That moment you should overcome" title.
And then, something out of my mind, I thought about one thing that's currently haven't done through my life.
That moment, when I am falling in love, having crush with this girl, but always end up with no clear result, since I have no courage to tell her.
This is something I haven't overcome yet.
My soul afraid, that it would change our relationship, from friend to be the awkward one.
But then, all of my close friend told me to say it, and I need to be a man for accepting whatever results might come up. Surely I haven't ready, surely I am scared.
Yups, love could make someone the strongest man on earth. And it could make the weakest person in the world, what a mysterious energy we have! With no courage, perhaps it would be like this, and always be like this. I need power, I need strength, I need courage, to say what I feel, to tell her everything.
Charlie, charlie, charlie, give me your bravery, to overcome this one, something we called as love.
Be a man and brave, raf!
Ah,
Since long time ago, I want to post something about this.
Things, that I used to hold up, for enjoying myself more, instead of thinking what people think about me. The art of not giving a fuck, has been learned since I used to kid. My sister, as my role model, that's been smart ass, having high IQ, but have critical thinking, always got teacher's attention, in a positive way.
People would call her tomboy, because her friends always be boys, walking around without sandals, screaming out loud to getting people's attention, yups, for selling more of our products. At first, I felt embarrassed, "What people would think about her? Don't she feel ashamed? People definitely would judge her", etc.
But no, she didn't give any fuck with that. She always does. Time keep running, I begun learnt something through her. She might not care about herself being ashamed, what she cared was getting customers, and could help my fathers more. Enough to be said, I am the one who should be ashamed tho.
In studying perspective, she had her own reasons.
"It's now or never"
Yups, she always had so many questions through her study. She asked a lot, like literally a lot, whenever teachers asked "Any question?" She's the one who would ask, and begging for answer as clear as possible. Yups, what she did was confirming, whether it's right or not, or somehow, people tend to tell she's asking stupid questions. But no, it's just a little bit complex.
Yups, since I was taking same Junior High School, no teacher didn't know her. Every time I met new teachers, they would ask me "Oh, Rina's brother ya, why aren't you active like her?" etc. Once again, she left the burden to me, I was not ready yet, and mostly observed instead of being active. And I regret it till 8th Grade. I tried to be more open, to be more active, try not giving a fuck with my friends thought
"Meh, faggot"
"Meh, sok-sok belajar"
"Meh, are you seeking attention or something?"
"Meh, anak rumah banget ya? (Meh, always playing just around your home ya?)"
etc
No no no, I'm just trying to be me, enjoying myself, "It's now or never" to learn anything from my teachers.
You know what changed? I got 2nd place in term of grade loh. And ...... Since I'm studying more, once again, I love studying! I got this feeling that I had to be success, for not being burden to my parentx, and helping my father in the future.
This art, has been thought and passed through me. Since then, I don't care what others think about me. I don't care if they tried bullying me, or telling me whatever they want. I don't care if someone had Motorcycle while me still using public transport, I don't care if my phone still polyphonic ones, whether my friends already had the smart ones. Yups, I only focused with what I HAVE instead of what I don't have. And it makes me happy tho.
It focused me through my study, I have less distraction compared with my friends. And ..... I managed to get scholarship during my High school and college terms.
So guys, let's stop giving a fuck with negative things! It's not being apathy or something, but just mind your own business and focused with it loh. I mean, they have their own problems, and we have ours also, right? Hohoho. I hope this article could inspire you and change your mind about what others think loh. It's not going to impact you a dime, if you didn't care about it.
Ganbatte!
Should we try to seek our Passion?
The answer is yes and no.
Yes, you could found your passion through several trials and errors doing several things.
No, because, this is something you could build by yourself, and could become your passion in the future.
Myself has been tried to do both of them. But I guess the easiest way are building your passion alone, by yourself. Why? When I was looking my passion, I tried active in several organization directly. I managed to be Entrepreneur, being CEO of Tropical Laundry, taking charge one start up to support my dormitory economically. And then, I took my part as student, which is being lecturer and severa sl practicums assistant. I also took my part as HMME Head of Research Division, doing several work with it.
I failed, I couldn't focus to do my roles, and I can't be my best to do it. Every work program were done so so, although it could be better if I could focus on. Yups, besides my bad time management, I am the one who should be blamed, not even my staff or intern at that time. I managed to answer my deep question
"Which one is better? Focus on one organization but we could do something cool with it or ..... Active in several organization, but the result is so so?"
The answer is the first one I guess.
Well, in my very last year as student, when I only focused on my dormitory as MPA or People's Consultative Assembly, managed one work program (getting pensions money for our employees), also as guardian of value. I'm just being one practicum assistant, and taking only several credits. My point is, my activity is not that much lah. Since I am feeling that it's not myself, I create one social project called DCME, which is educating local societies in Pulosari, and create route map IF disaster happened back then. Yups, thanks to my team, we managed do it successfully, achieved and exceed our main target. On that phase, I learned that the art of "Giving" isn't always about matters or money, but as simple as sharing your knowledge to others, and being useful by implementing what you learned is truly a gift. I was moved and thought it's probably "Ore no nindo da" (read: It's my ninja way) haha :p
After that, I was chosen as Regional Ambassador of Tunza, doing several social project, and wrote report about it. Yups, once again I learned, writing is truly cool. I found lots of dedicating persons, that's already doing something really big to their societies, and managed to INSPIRE others within their articles. I always try my best to share what I knew and what I've done so far. And I love it. In this term, I found that writing might be my greatest strength to inspire and encourage people. Even I could highlight my campaign through an article, right?
During my Ambassador terms, I also created YFCA, as my very first organization. Yups, once again, we managed to do 4 social projects, in which, keep focusing on our goals to increase awareness about environment, especially Climate Change. I learned about myself so much, that I should be more optimistic leader instead of the pessimist one, keep focusing and move straight to reach goals, do not hesitate to take charge in decision making. Moreover, if it could change the whole planned at the first place. I thought it would be better if we stepped back from the plan, and I wrong, thanks to kurtiks that keep reminding about these stuffs. And once I again, I learned,
"it's always seems impossible until it's done"
Yups, to summarize this article, I suggest you guys to focus on one or two roles, instead of taking all charges. Determined which one should be your priority, and in line with your current goals. Passion could be found in several ways, but building your own is the most effective one for sure, since you already knew what you're doing, and how to enhance it.
Once again, thanks for reading it and hope it could inspire you guys!
Love always,
Rafi
No matter who you are, Introvert or Extrovert, constraint, haven't had any courage at all. There is a time when you need to stand up, stop justifying yourself, as you used to be. I know its hard to introduce yourself in front of people, I know it's hard to speak in front of awesome persons. You scared they would look down to you, and you're not worthy enough to stand up right over there.
But no,
It's just you overthinking, it's just you justifying yourself that can't do it, and you know what, unfortunately, you know how something works until it's done. This is how our world works, honey :)
I remembered, as an Introvert, Charlie hard to find any friends, if there's any, it's only one, and ...... his friend shot himself :") But then, there's a time, when he tried to fit in, try to introduce himself to Patrick, forget and leave his shy character behind, and ..... you know what happened? He found best friends for the rest of his life.
The result is unexpected, he's not only get Patrick, but also Sam, and got accepted as Wallflower.
The concept is pretty simple, no matter how fucked up your life, no matter how shy you are right now, and no matter how confidence your friends, that's already exchanged abroad, already being speakers nationally even Internationally, etc. Yups, formerly, they been like you, they been shy, they been discouraged because they think they can't. And they prove it wrong, they just took one step forward, leave everything behind, and TRY.
What next? Believe me, you won't never be the same anymore, because one of phase has been passed, and you take granted from it.
Hope it helped and good luck trying it, guys!
There is a time,
When I was sleeping,
Dreaming how cool I am to be,
I could be a doctor
I could be an Astronaut,
I could be a Meteorologist,
I could be whatever I want
It happened so fast,
I woke up,
Charging up my energy,
And then face with reality
I study
I play
I work
I do whatever it takes to be the best of me
Reality is much harder
Time is running so slow,
Process takes time,
And the best thing to do is enjoy it
I remembered,
When I used to dream,
Everything goes easily,
But no, it never goes that way,
I gave my time,
I gave my energy,
Solving things haven't been unsolved,
Perfect what could be perfected,
Chased what could be chased
This how things done,
Pursuing my dreams aren't never about the result,
It's all about the process,
How could I manage doing things,
How could I keep focusing chase my dream,
How could I make it real,
This is my turn,
Dream, Believe, and Make it Happens
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